Murders in South Carolina and other Flipside observations


Murders in South Carolina and other Flipside observations.

Questions about murderers, psychopaths etc comes up often in the research.

It’s a question often asked; “What about so and so?” Because what people report is that when we get offstage, we have a life review… and people experience the negative things they caused others to experience, but they experience them first hand. So it’s a form of hell if one wants to use that terminology — it doesn’t exist per se in the research, data or footage, but in the desire to be accurate about what people report, they report that those folks who have created mayhem, get to experience the mayhem first hand.

Also when discussing psychopaths — we only have the language of genetics or sociology to help. “His DNA is predisposed to lack of empathy.” or “He or she was abused as a child, and abusers act out of abuse, in a never ending pattern.” Both appear to apply to psychopaths in general. But there is this other element; their spiritual path. Things that occurred in previous lifetimes, agreements or discussions made prior to coming to the stage. We can’t judge someone completely unless we know all the facts about why and how their teachers, guides, classmates and council members thought this might be a worthy effort onstage (for discussions about Divine Councils, see “Divine Councils in the Afterlife” for some examples of planned journeys, or “Architecture of the Afterlife” for additional accounts).

But something else is in the mix, and a headline is prompting me to comment about it. I don’t really have another place to comment about it, I may write about it for an article at Medium or my blog (MartiniShot) but the headline is this:

“Judge who sentenced Alex Murdaugh to life tells disgraced lawyer his murdered wife and son ‘will visit you at night’”

From an observational perspective, that may or may not be the case — the visiting I mean, because as noted, we have filters on the brain that prevent us generally from being aware of people visiting us. However, some people wracked with guilt, may experience this. And is what the judge is referring to.

But it brings to mind the defense attorney from a midwestern state who reached out to me, and is a chapter in the book “It’s a Wonderful Afterlife” (2) where she reached out to me to talk about an unusual aspect of her work. She is a defense attorney in 2nd degree murder trials.

It’s Chapter Twelve “I Can Help You.” (in the book IT’S A WONDERFUL AFTERLIFE; VOLUME TWO)

Basically she said in her 100 cases defending second degree murderers (drunk drivers, accidental shooting) ALL of them were “visited by their victims.” (Not some of them, or a percentage of them.) When she said that, I wondered about what they learned from those visits.

She said, “They all reported some form of “I’m okay” and “You don’t have to blame yourself” (again, these were second degree murders, accidents from willful disregard) or “I forgive you.”

It’s a startling statistic, it’s a disconcerting piece of data. I searched the records, and found a case in Seattle where a guy had murdered an entire family, and during his sentencing phrase (he admitted it, he was in a drug haze) he said “I was visited by the family that I killed, and they told me that they are okay. I just wanted the victim’s family to hear that. No matter what happens to me, I want them to know they still exist.”

One of the jurors was moved by that testimony — and commuted his sentence to life in prison.

In the case of this recent South Carolina murder — he claims he didn’t do the crime. However, the visitation will be the same. His family can come to him, can explain what happened.

And he will have all that time in prison to reflect upon, perhaps help someone else while he’s there. This guy was a lawyer who prosecuted many people — he’s going to have a hard time of it wherever he ends up, but in essence, he has the “rest of his life” to help prisoners with their appeals, to set up a law practice in prison (as Bob Odenkirk does in “Better Call Saul”) where he can earn some “points on the flipside” by helping those who are still on the planet.

I know the sentence was said as vengeance, but that won’t bring back his wife and son — and further, shows that we cannot learn anything from our journey on the planet if we cannot discuss the data, research and footage that shows both his wife and son are “alive on the flipside.” Have gone home, early, as planned, we cannot know unless we ask them.

But in terms of justice, I’m offering that the more people become aware that this isn’t our only lifetime, that we bring conscious energy to a life, and the rest is back home — the more we can understand why and how we on the planet, and why things happen (including bad ones.)

So indeed, his family is likely going to visit him in his dreams, but it may not be for the reasons the judge has offered. There’s a larger, more elaborate picture to examine, and it includes why we choose to be on the planet.

Here’s the chapter: (reprinted from It’s a Wonderful Afterlife Volume Two)

Chapter Twelve — “I Can Help You”

Interview with An Attorney

I’ve changed the name of the attorney and other details to protect the families and client/attorney privilege.

The Attorney

RICHARD: Where are you from?

ATTORNEY: I grew up in the West, went to law school in California, practiced there two years; there were few female lawyers (where I lived), and I ended up here in (my home state).

Did you have any spiritual experiences in your life?

I was taking ballet as a child, there were a lot of Russians there after the war, and we had a lot of Russians (in my home town). I was about 8 years old, I remember the teacher saying “In Russia, they pick dancers by the shape of their feet.” I can remember consciously thinking “If I’m not a dancer in this life, then I’ll be a dancer in my next life.” I had never been exposed to the idea of incarnation, as I was raised Roman Catholic. Also when my mother passed, I had a visitation from her.

I’ve practiced law for 30 years. And all of my clients, every single one of them has had a visitation — even the most staunch Baptist who would never believe “any of that,” an off the wall conservative, or religious; it doesn’t matter. All have had a visitation and 90% try to discount it, “Oh, it’s just my imagination.”

What do you tell them?

I tell my clients they need to just “listen.” Most of those I’ve worked with who’ve killed people have done it at least inadvertently; I’ve worked with many who killed people with their automobiles. It is still a criminal act, but usually caused by alcohol or some other factor. Every single one has been visited (in some fashion) by the person they killed, either in a dream or a hypnogogic state.

What are the most memorable ones?

There were four most strongly remembered. Two that still pull on my heart strings; one was a young adult who had just gotten a new pickup. He was having a speed contest with another kid on this winding country road and decided to pass him, crossing over the double yellow line.

Suddenly there were kids on their bikes, they split, and one went his way. This boy braked as hard as he could, but he killed one of the children. And it was horrible. I was his lawyer and he was charged with many things, but he would tell me that this child would come to him in his dreams. Mind you, during the accident he only saw the child for an instant. And in his visions, the child would come to him and say “I’m ok. You don’t need to worry. I’m safe and happy where I am and I can help you. But you have to let me help you.” And my client would wake himself up.

I’m Ok Where I Am

I worked with this young man for a long time, and I would tell him “You need to listen to your subconscious and deal with this grief and move on from this incident.” But he was having none of it. He’d say “It scares me, it’s a nightmare.” For a while he didn’t sleep, sometimes for days at a time. Anyway, he really went off the rails after that. He wasn’t a great student to begin with, but he just did all the things you’re afraid kids will do; by the time I saw him some years later, he had gotten into drugs.

Can you repeat what the child said to him?

The child said “I’m ok where I am. I’m happy. I’m safe here. I’m in no pain.” Basically telling him “You don’t need to feel guilty.” The main message was “I can help you, but you have to let me help you.” But this boy was having none of it; it was too frightening to him. His family was strict Baptist, so there was no solace for him in his Church.

How about you? Are you religious?

I consider myself a Buddhist.

Are there other cases you can mention?

This other case was a young man who joined the military, came home on leave, one thing lead to another; he went out with his friends drinking beer. He was not drunk, but he flipped a jeep and it landed on his friend.

His friend was still alive, and the friend said “I can’t breathe, get me out.” So this man would use all his effort to lift up the Jeep, but eventually he’d have to put it back down. He picked it up until his arms didn’t work anymore, and finally went to get help and the friend died.

In this case, the driver lost all of the hair on the leg that the other boy had been holding onto when he lifted up the Jeep. Later, he said he could still feel his friend’s hands burned into his skin.

And then friend then started appearing to him. My client would be in a recliner and see him, and his friend would say essentially the same thing; “I’m fine where I am, this is the way it was supposed to happen, I can help you.” Saying “I can help you move past this but you have to let me help you.” But again, there was no way he could do that.

When they talk about seeing victims have they described them visually?

Some would see them in their dreams. The boy who drove into the child on the bike said he only saw the child for a split second before his car hit him, so he had no reference for that child other than that moment, so it surprised him how the child would appear to him. It’s the same story with the friend who lost control of the Jeep; he would see his friend standing next to his chair. He would appear as a full ghost to him. In full physical form.

Was it the same message for each person or different messages?

No, just the same message; “I can help you.”

In another case, a guy and his buddy got drunk, went hunting, rolled their truck. So this man killed his close relative. That guy was charged with homicide — and his relative appeared to him. 

The message he got from the relative was that he wanted him to go back to the wreck and look for something. The message was “You have to go back there and find it.” So this man kept going back to the scene of the accident, like a compulsion, looking for something — but he didn’t know what. He kept going back and never found anything.

Perhaps it was a metaphor. Perhaps to find peace or what really happened?

Or to face it. He started finding things out there; found a smashed cowboy hat, he kept looking for things that might have fallen out of his truck, I don’t know if he ever found whatever it was he was supposed to find.

The fourth most powerful experience I recall was that of an attorney I know. If there was a prize for “worst father of the year,” he would have won it; his answer to dealing with his child’s anger was to lock them in the cellar. 

When I met his son, I thought “This child was too fragile for this Earth.” Once I went fishing with them and he didn’t say one word the entire day. On the boy’s 16th birthday, he came into the office and was just talking up a storm. I was like “Who is this boy? What happened?” When I got in the truck with my husband, I said to him “Something really has made him happy.” 

Well, it was the night the child decided to commit suicide. About a week later, this attorney said to me “Every time I fall asleep, my boy comes and stands by my chair. How could that be?” He said the son told him “I’m okay where I am, it wasn’t your fault; I feel free.”

I told this attorney what I’ve said to all of my clients who’ve experienced something like this; “Just listen.” This happened for some months. My impression is that eventually we get beyond their concern for us, or we get used to it, or I don’t know; we just don’t see it anymore.

It’s in the research and there’s a case I heard about where a woman had the same kind of experience, losing a son to suicide, and then having him come to her in a dream. It’s unusual in this case, as he continues to come back — must be a strong connection there.

I’m considered the absent minded professional. I’m very logical, very rational, I try to rule out coincidental causes. Before my sister “Betty” died she said, “I will be in touch with you.” One day I was freaking out about something, and I looked at the floor, it was empty, but then when I lifted up my head there was money on the floor. I don’t know where it came from, but it made me think of my sister. I thought “Oh she must really be worrying about me.”

I was talking to a friend and she said “Do you know someone named Betty? She really wants to talk to you.” She said “Your sister’s really starting to yell at me.” I had never had an experience like this; she was identifying stuff only Betty and I would know, a Christmas tree we had when we were little, our tire swing at the old home, how we’d climb up onto this building and jump off with the tire swing – so my friend said “She came through to apologize to you.”

What did she say?

She said “I’m really sorry about the way I treated you when we were little girls, I yelled at you all the time, and I was mean to you.” Betty was unhappy as a little girl, yelled all the time, threw stuff, always cried in the family picture, but I only remember her throwing something at someone else, not at me.

Great story. So how many cases did you have where people had a memory of their victims coming to them?

I’ve probably had 5 of these death cases a year over 34 years — up to ten a year. It’s over 100. In every case — even with my secretary, and my bookkeeper — every single one I’ve represented has been visited by the victim or by the person close to them who died in some way.”

Wow, that’s amazing, thank you.

“As long as you are not aware of the continual law of Die and Be Again, you are merely a vague guest on a dark Earth.” — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe



Message from God in the Hacking the Afterlife forum.

Question from the forum Hacking the Afterlife on Quora:

"Richard if you are able to can you someway tie out Jesus Christ, God the Father, and The Holy Spirit to this after life I firmly believe in. Recently during a difficult day I was having, I asked out loud " God where are You" the answer came back " I'm everywhere". I believe that answer. 

Are you able to shed some light on my question please?

My answer:

"Interesting reply.

I think the reply was pretty succinct. “Where are you?”

“I’m everywhere.”

Didn’t beat around the bush. Wasn’t parsing the question - “Where are you when I need you?” Same answer. “Where do I look for you?” “What or who are you?”

That’s where the answers get interesting.

During a session in the book It’s a Wonderful Afterlife, a woman asked the question “what or who is God?” She asked it that way because she is an atheist, skeptic, didn’t believe there is any consciousness after death, or an afterlife, but had agreed to experiment, do a hypnotherapy session for four to six hours because her doctor thought it would be “helpful to her to relax.” So she agreed, but in the car to the hypnotherapist’s office, I asked if “she had any questions for her guides.”

She said “No, because there is no such thing, there are no guides, we die and that’s it.” I laughed; so why are you doing this session?” She said it was her doctor’s advice. So I asked “well, how about one question?” She sarcastically replied “Okay, what are who is God?”

During her session she went far and deep, recalled a lifetime in Arizona I could verify, and later met her guide. The hypnotherapist (Scott at Life Between Lives ~ Spiritual Hypnotherapy ) asked her question to him, and the guide said “God is beyond the capacity of the human brain to comprehend, it’s not physically possible to do so. However, you can experience God by opening your heart to everyone and all things.”

I have examined that statement for the past 8 years or so, and realize it’s a formula. Meaning, “learn how to open your heart to everyone and you’ll experience God.”

So what does that have to do with the comment, “I’m everywhere.”

If we allow that the guide was accurate - that the way to experience God is to “open your heart to everyone and all things” - what does that mean? Compassion is a way of opening one’s heart. People describe having an “epiphany” in the research, where they suddenly, spontaneously feel connected to everyone and all things. They even report seeing the planet as a series of atoms, or interconnected lights.

That also shows up often in the research. People on the flipside (or having a near death event) where they suddenly see that we are all lights, all energy, that we are all connected to each other.

So then think about this for a moment. All connected. All part of the same ocean of experience. All part of consciousness which appears to permeate the universe. Not something separate, but like the “ocean” is home, the water that contains all the water droplets in existence, we have individual pitchers of water that is our experience, who we are, all of our lifetimes. That’s our portion of conscious energy - but the composition of that energy is no different, better, worse than anyone else’s. Like drops of water in the ocean - individual but equal and the same.

Further, when one introduces electricity to a pool of water, all the droplets experience the charge simultaneously. Not a wave, but like quantum mechanics - at the same time. Having an epiphany is realizing, seeing, experiencing that we are all connected - at the same time.

So where is consciousness? It’s everywhere. But we don’t call it consciousness. Further, when we examine that statement “You can experience God by opening your heart to everyone and all things” - the things part holds the key. What are things? Atoms agreeing to hold space. This computer, this screen, these ones and zeroes vibrating in a frequency - agreeing to stick together to be the thing we’ve “created.”

And if we open our hearts to the monitor, to the keyboard, the screen - what does that mean? To become aware that all is consciousness, all is “love” for lack of a more cogent term, but that everything is love. It’s not only that “God is love” but Love - the thing we strive for, the thing we experience as “unconditional” when we return home, is what consciousness is.

So back to your first question - how to tie Jesus, the Holy Spirit and source together. (I use the word source, because in an interview with Jesus, I had observed that in the three different filmed encounters with people “seeing him” - or “sensing his presence” - when he got “closer to them” - their faces turned red, tears began to flow and they couldn’t breathe. So I asked him why that physiological thing had happened on three occasions.

I was surprised by his answer. “In this lifetime, I brought more of source with me. When people experience that reaction, it’s because as they get closer to me they feel that unconditional love.”

A mind bending answer. But because of who I am as a person, I responded, “Yeah, but not so much with the Romans.” The medium didn’t know what I was referring to, but she said “He’s laughing. I don’t know what you just said to him means, but he’s laughing about it.”

Which started the conversations with him. I’ve filmed about a dozen, different people - atheists, non believers, skeptics - and believers, who are startled to “see him” using hypnotherapy, mediumship or meditation. All I do is report that no matter who sees him, I ask the same questions. About his life, about the accuracy of the bible, about why he’s the one who seems to greet so many people during a near death event, and how to access him now.

His answers remain the same, no matter who I ask. Now if someone can explain that - people I’ve never met, people who are avowed skeptics saying “This is weird, I’m seeing someone who looks like Jesus” and I say “well ask him. Does he have a name tag? Who is he?” and then I ask him the same questions about his journey. His responses are consistent, and I would be dishonest if I didn’t report them verbatim.

“The bible is metaphor.” “All religions point to the same garden.” “You don’t have to follow me, but allow me to walk beside you.” “We are all walking each other home.” “The stories in the Bible aren’t accurate, especially when used as a weapon.” When asked why he’s allowing people to see, hear this alternate version of his story, he’s said more than once; “It’s not alternate if it’s true.”

So he existed, lived on the planet, and still exists. Has had other lifetimes, but the point remains, he’s “closer to source” in his makeup, and when people are near him, see him, they experience unconditional love. He can’t alter someone’s path or intercede, but he can give hope and solace and great advice. He focuses often on unconditional love for others.

The concept of the “Holy spirit” is actually a mistranslation of text. I’m sorry to report it, but the original Bible in Aramaic and Greek referred to the word “Pneuma” as the “third part of the trinity.” That means “to breathe” in both languages, became spirare or spiros in Latin - also means to breathe. So when the English scribes were translating the text they took “spirare” or “spiros” as a separate entity. A spirit. Which became ghost for awhile, now is back to “holy spirit.” But what is that referring to?

It goes back to the first part of this answer. Consciousness. People were trying to describe how people come to life. They used the term “father” for “source” then used the term “son” to represent mankind, and the difference between a mental energetic state and human state? It’s to breathe. Breathing. A brick doesn’t breathe. But humans do. “The breath of life.” If one uses the word consciousness is represent the same concept - that we exist “as conscious energy” (made up by, imbued by the same qualities of source or the ocean) and when we incarnate, come into a body, we need to bring that portion of our conscious energy that is us to the fetus or womb of the mother. People report entering the womb “after the fourth month” and when someone makes it all 9 months, is born breathing.

Takes their first breath. (As we know, the fetus doesn’t breathe until out onto the planet. But a weird factoid; I know one child who spoke to their parent as they emerged from the womb. I kid you not. Literally said a word aloud, so the father and Obgyn heard it. Father turned to the doc and said “Is that normal? Babies speaking before they emerge from the womb?” Doctor shook his head, “Nope.”)

Later the child was asked what the word meant. She said “It means I’m coming back.” (Said that in a crowd of people at the age of 3. Plenty of startled eyewitnesses including me.)

So there you have it; based on the data, research and footage; Jesus exists, can be asked questions about his journey today, now - just stick around for a reply. The holy trinity is “conscious energy portion from source” “the human animal” and the consciousness that enters the fetus and brings life.

At least that’s my take on it. And when someone replies “I’m everywhere” take them at their word.


Happy Birthday on the Flipside Bill Paxton - here are three mediums talking to Bill Paxton

 Jennifer Shaffer and I have been chatting with Bill Paxton for six years since he crossed over.

With Harry Dean Stanton

The documentary about three mediums asking my old pal the same questions can be found on Gaia: - "Talking to Bill Paxton" 

In honor of Bill's "Birthday" on the flipside (their term, not mine) - like a homecoming or the date of a return, here are three interviews where he shows up.


With Kimberly Babcock (click on the video to watch, or use this site:

With Raylene Nuanes (I supplied the questions)

With Jennifer Shaffer

Not gone, just not here.

Happy flipside birthday mon ami.

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