The Flipside of Anger or Hate


"A manifestation of a divine or supernatural being."

"A moment of sudden revelation or insight."

An epiphany (from the ancient Greek ἐπιφάνεια, epiphaneia, "manifestation, striking appearance") is an experience of sudden and striking realization. Generally the term is used to describe scientific breakthrough, religious or philosophical discoveries, but it can apply in any situation in which an enlightening realization allows a problem or situation to be understood from a new and deeper perspective. Epiphanies are studied by psychologists and other scholars, particularly those attempting to study the process of innovation.

Epiphanies are relatively rare occurrences and generally follow a process of significant thought about a problem. Often they are triggered by a new and key piece of information, but importantly, a depth of prior knowledge is required to allow the leap of understanding. Famous epiphanies include Archimedes's discovery of a method to determine the density of an object ("Eureka!") and Isaac Newton's realization that a falling apple and the orbiting moon are both pulled by the same force. From Wiki

"Relatively rare."

I heard an epiphany this morning and thought I'd write about it. A friend was really angry about something.  It was something that has angered a number of people, and to be specific about it is to take it out of the world of "hate" or "anger" and to put it in the world of "cause and effect."

Alcatraz. Prison of the mind.

In other words, any normal person would see this video clip of someone being hurt and would feel a swelling of anger in themselves with regard to the event.  In her own life, she has had a similar event, but not the same event.  Meaning, her reference to the feelings of powerlessness, hurt, humiliation and fear were not the same as the person in the video she was watching, but one could "associate" those feelings with a "fear based memory."

Post traumatic stress disorder is a fear based memory.  Seeing people hurt by people in authority is a fear based memory.  Reading about a sexual abuse case in the news sometimes triggers the memories of fear or abuse, and brings back those feelings of anger. 

But this post is about addressing just the energy of anger and hate.

Anger, hate, fear is a prison.

Because as my friend was reflecting on the feelings of anger and hate regarding that tape, she was also aware that she had awoken in a state of anger, had already cut her finger badly by accident, or lack of focus, and was generally in a state of rage, fear, anger and resentment - not just from watching the video of someone being hurt - but from all of it.

She realized "Everything that's been happening in the world that is being focused on by the media" contributed to her state of mind.  

All of it infuriating in her mind, and more importantly in her energetic field.

And then she had an epiphany.  

She saw that the energy of hate is closely aligned with anger, and stepping into, or living in a state of anger or hate forces an energy shift in us that puts us into that focus.  That it's a self created energy, and that it is just a matter of focus to be in that beam of energy, or to not be in that energy.

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As she experienced that thought, she was suddenly overcome with a feeling of compassion for the perpetrator in that video.  

She saw that the person committing the act of violence was also living in that state of fear and anger, and that the action was a direct result of being in that state of anger and hate.

It didn't mitigate her feelings of horror of seeing what happened to the victim, but she saw and understood that the perpetrator was acting as a direct result of living in that state of anger and hate, or fear and disconnection. She had an overwhelming feeling of compassion for the perpetrator.

I'm not posting the video or the description of the violence - because that would be missing the point.  The point is that living in a state of fear, living in a state of anger and hate only causes more violence, anger and hate.

It's a choice to be in the energy of hate and confusion, anger and fear.  

We tend to forget that everything that we think, feel, sense or experience is a result of exterior input.  Meaning the light wave that hits our eye is translated into an electrical signal that enters our memory, or the smell of food is a wave that reaches our nostrils and stimulates that part of our memory bank, the sound wave that moves through the air and reaches our ears  is translated to a signal that goes into our memory and causes a reaction - or that the sensation on our skin is actually an electrical signal that moves through our body to remind us of something... all of it is an electrical impulse.

All of it exists outside of us.  None of it exists inside of us.

It's a matter of reacting to what we're seeing, sensing, hearing or experiencing.  And that's a choice for us of how to react.  We can react the way our parents reacted, our grandparents reacted, the way our friends or community reacts - or we can choose to react the way we believe we should react.  

With or without fear, with or without ignorance, with or without hate or anger.

The  Dalai Lama calls himself a "professional laugher."

As the Dalai Lama has pointed out - "Hate or anger would be a useful emotion if they caused the person we hated to be sick or ill.  But it doesn't.  It only serves to make us sick or ill."  

We can't control what other people do, we can't control how other people behave, we can only control how we react to them.

And when those feelings of hate or anger arise within -- try to unfocus that feeling - or shift it -- to see that it arose out of fear and anger in the perpetrator, that we don't have to experience that anger and hate, and adjust it so that you are not attached to the experience of it.  

From a Flipside perspective,  people under deep hypnosis often say that the very worst things we can imagine happening to people were "agreed upon" prior to coming to the planet.  That's a disconcerting piece of information but it's not my opinion, belief or theory.  It's just what people consistently say about their own journey and path.  Meaning it's next to impossible to understand why an event occurs, unless we ask the people involved.  Unless we literally "step into someone else's shoes" to understand it.

If we understand that people act out of anger and hate because they're living in the shadow of anger and hate, it allows us to not react with our own anger and hate.

It would be easy to say "the answer is to try to live in a state of love and compassion" but we all know how difficult that is.  

Just try to live in a state of understanding.

Turn this...

Or this.
Into this...

Find the thing that shifts your focus from anger and hate to understanding or compassion.  

It's a much healthier way to navigate the planet.  

My epiphany for the day.


Speaking of Coast to Coast

I got a chance to appear on "Coast to Coast" with George Noory last Thursday.

George Noory and yours truly looking kinda pink.
Someone sent me an email that asked "Why did you say this particular thing?" the other day.  Truthfully, I'm pretty much on auto pilot at that time of the day, so whatever I said was in reply to what George was asking me.  He's such an excellent interviewer, that often I haven't a clue as to what we talked about, I just know that it was a lot of fun talking with him.

He asked me one question about whether "people feel remorse when they report from the Flipside?"

I said "not in my research."
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I need to clarify that people may experience remorse after a lifetime, that's not in my ability to say that people do or don't experience what they experience.  However, I can say that in general, the people that I've interviewed aren't people who've had awful lifetimes causing distress while they were here.

Its entirely possible that someone would feel remorse, regret, pangs of ill feelings about the things they've done or not done - but in my experience, and in my research, once a person "lets go of the earthly bonds that tie us to the planet" - they go through something akin to being "blasted out of a cannon."

It's kind of hard feeling remorse at that particular moment.

When people do express that feeling of remorse,it's often during their "life review."  That's a term often used by Michael Newton ("Journey of Souls") regarding what we experience while under deep hypnosis, while accessing the "between lives realm."  His 7000 clients over 30 years said relatively the same things about having a "life review" process.

I've filmed 45 sessions, and interviewed a number of people who are familiar with their own between life sessions.  In particular Paul Aurand described in great detail what it felt like when he was before his council and accessing a previous lifetime where he was a slave owner, and "cared more for his property than his slaves."  Paul was able to access that memory because his council was showing him that as a soul he'd progressed - that he no longer treated anyone (outside of himself) with disdain.

In the near death event of David Bennett ("Voyage of Purpose" and his interview in my book "It's a Wonderful Afterlife") David recalled his "Life review."  In it he was shown a couple of events from "this lifetime."  (Information he'd easily have access to, but wasn't aware of the ramifications of them.)  

In one instance, he was shown a barfight he started in Texas, when a young man made a pass at him, and he let the bartender know about it.  The man was then beaten senseless, but in David's memory of the event, he experienced it through the eyes of the victim.  He felt every punch, the hatred, the humiliation involved.  Then he was shown another event when he helped a woman who was depressed - and how getting her "to smile" changed her world.

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Today I replied to someone who was upset about my comments during the show that people generally didn't report any form of evil on the flipside. 

Here's the exchange:

Email: "I'm not sure if Karma is addressed in any of your interviews with souls/spirits in the Afterlife. But I don't seem to find that topic.  I don't know about life paths for every person, but I would find it hard to "believe" that a soul who created mayhem, destruction, violence (especially against children), could just sail on through in the Afterlife without some kind of amends/retribution.  Thank you."
My reply:

"Thanks for the comment.  Well, as I'm fond of saying, I'm just reporting here.  It's not my theory, belief or philosophy in the mix... I'm just reporting what people consistently say about the flipside. Whether it's under deep hypnosis, during a near death event, or in some other altered consciousness fashion.  I understand that sounds contrary to every known religious and philosophical tradition on the planet, and if I observed or heard information that wasn't contrary - that is, if I heard information that contained some form of amends/retribution for those who've created mayhem, I would report that.  But that's not what's in the reports.

What is in the reports is that people who create mayhem experience that mayhem when they get "back home" to meet with their "spirit guides" or council - which is reported to encourage that individual to experience fully everything negative they've ever done to anyone.  So in a sense, yes, if we can imagine everyone that we've ever hurt, made feel bad, or worse - every creature that we've killed by accident or on purpose, to fully feel their experience of pain, suffering or humiliation - all from their perspective - that would give anyone pause. (Which is consistently reported - that when someone remembers an awful thing they did during their lifetime,it's something they experience from the perspective of their victim.)

And that detail actually is reported - that people have a "life review" and during those life reviews they get a chance to experience everything they've done to other people.  (During Coast to Coast the other night, he asked if people felt "remorse" over a previous life - but I have to answer honestly... in my research I've not found that.  However, I'm not interviewing people who were perpetrators for the most part, just people who have suffered and not caused pain.  There are a few of those in my research (and I report those) but for the most part - people experience wonder after they pass. At least the ones I've interviewed or filmed.)

But when we speak to people who've had those experiences as victims (and I've filmed quite a few) - that is people who were "murdered" "annihilated" or molested as children... while they are under deep hypnosis they report consistently not what anyone with a sane mind would want to hear.  They report - consistently - that from the soul's perspective, their journey here was done with intent - either to teach lessons in love or compassion or forgiveness, or to learn lessons in the same.  And again - if they reported some form of red hot pokers being applied to the fingernails of their perpetrators - I'd be really happy to report that.  Because it certainly exists in every film, book or story I'm aware of where someone seeks revenge on their perpetrators.  And there's something satisfying to think that would be the case.
My job as I see it

But my job, as I see it, is to report what I'm hearing consistently - without judgment or prejudice about what they're saying.  I can't imagine choosing such a difficult path, I can't imagine choosing a lifetime where awful things would happen to me - and from my own experience I've seen a number of lifetimes of my own - or what appears to be my own memories of these different lives - and generally I appear to avoid that kind of strife and stress in my own choices.  But I have respect and unconditional love for my fellow beings who choose difficult lives - and so therefore I can appreciate what they're saying about them.  But thanks for asking.

The reply: Okay, thank you, and I appreciate your thoughtful reply. Troubling to me how we don't hear about and from the inflictors of pain as often as we do about those who suffered terribly. The Hitlers, the Stalins, and those whose policies have made others suffer would be an interesting report.

My reply:

"There are quite a few reports of people "speaking" to those you mention. What they say is that the world we exist in is a stage. That people sign up to play roles of "good and bad" people.  Since they are performances, they are actors playing the role of the bad guy.  For example, Desdemona doesn't go up to Othello after the play and say "You killed me!"  Rather they comment on how well the show went.  

Romeo doesn't walk up to Juliet and ask "why'd  you take that poison?"  She'd answer "we've been doing this play for a long time Romeo, did you forget that we do this each time?"  Since we have the illusion that we are fully conscious, fully in the world we're in, while reading this sentence, we can't be aware of how it is that we chose to be here, chose to wear this costume or chose to play this role.  It's not up to me to change anyone's feelings about that - because that makes me the fellow who turns on the lights in the middle of the play and shouts "It's only a play!"  

But if one can wrap their mind around the concept "We don't die" it might make it easier to comprehend.  None of us dies, so there's no harm anyone can accomplish in our direction.  Yes, temporary stress, harm - but we can't be killed, and if we survive whatever has happened to us, physically, we can comprehend that any event is one that teaches lessons to everyone involved.
"We don't die."

It's not an easy topic. But I will offer you an account that I filmed, and is included in the book and film "Flipside." 

I was filming a woman who under deep hypnosis remembered being in the holocaust. She saw herself naked, waiting for the showers to come on. The hypnotherapist asked her to move back to happier times in this life,and she saw her family and friends and loved ones. Eventually he brought her back to the moment where she crossed over, out of the camp, and into a place where she was met by her loved ones.  She eventually got to see her council, her guides who have watched over all her lifetimes.  She asked "Why did I choose this lifetime? It was awful. I lost everyone I loved."

She said (and it's on camera in the film "Flipside") "They're showing me images... this is going to be difficult to express... but they're showing me images to make me see that it was harder to choose to play the role of a perpetrator in this life, than a victim."  

I was startled to hear it, as I'd never heard anything like it.  She said "From my perspective each day in the camp was a heightened lesson in many topics, love, compassion, forgiveness, courage... and from this perspective I'm glad I chose this role, as the role others chose was more difficult for them to overcome or process."

We really have to examine carefully the roles people play - as we know, Hitler, Stalin, Pol Pot, Genghis Kahn, Alexander the Great - all played a role, but they did not perform by themselves. They had thousands of others playing the role as well, assisting, aiding, abetting... perpetrating their will over others.  Why?  It's a good question.  Why would anyone sign up to experience trauma?  Well, I can only point to one person's report "You can learn more from one day of tragedy on earth than you can in 5000 years on some other boring planet."

Did you catch that?

We come here to learn or teach lessons.  For people on the flipside, 5000 years isn't that big of a deal - time works differently off planet.  From my research I've heard that "25 years on earth feels like 10 minutes over there."  So there's that factor as well.  An 80 year lifetime might feel like a half an hour to our souls back home.  What happens on earth might be relatively thrilling or depressing,but it also might be just a blip in our overall journey and life's progress.  Just something to chew on.  

Again, I'm just reporting what people say.

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Then there's this fun email:

"Everything you talk about on your website, and what you talked about on Coast To Coast, is complete horseshit.

1) "We choose our next life". Horseshit.  I would NEVER choose this worthless abomination of a shithole ruled by evil criminal psychopaths to incarnate into.  I would choose a parallel Utopia Earth with no money, no banking, no government, no business, no corporations, no psychopathic ruling Elite, no corrupt legal system, no intelligence agencies, no need to eat other life forms to survive, and no secret societies like Freemasonry.  I have just proven you wrong.  (My response; "So why did you choose it?")

2) "We are here to learn lessons". Horseshit.  Who we really are is omniscient (all-knowing), omnipotent (all-powerful), formless, and has nothing to do with this 3D illusion.  In reality, we have nothing to learn.  It only seems like we learn in this 3D illusion, because it is in the deceptive design of it, to deceive us into believing we are the opposite of who we really are, and to deceive us into believing the 3D illusion and the illusion of humanity are real, when none of this is real.  This 3D illusion was created by corrupt thinking and lying entities that religious people worship as God. (Some of us take longer than other to learn lessons, just like in school.)

3) "Love love".  Horseshit.  Love is hypnosis, and has nothing to do with truth or reality.  (He cites a blog about the topic, how love is an illusion)  (Actually not my quote; it came from Robin Williams, someone I knew, who gave it in reply to asking him for a quote for the book "Hacking the Afterlife."  As pointed out on the show, neither I nor the medium understood what he meant - until he explained it.)

4) "We reincarnate".  Horseshit.   (He cites the blog again, claiming it's not true that we reincarnate)  (Highly recommend reading Dr. Tucker's books, Carol Bowman's or Ian Stevenson at UVA for verified peer reviewed cases of reincarnation.  Not my opinion, belief or theory - just verified cases.)

"Based on the quote above, mediums who are not con artists are actually unintentionally deceiving people.  Mediums are not actually communicating with dead people, they are communicating with the corrupt thinking and lying entities who conjure up this illusion, posing as the dead people.  Who we really are is that singular formless reality, and these individual 3D identities are all illusions."  

(Well, perhaps. Except in the cases of mediums who work with law enforcement on missing person and murder cases (which is what I was citing.)  Also, mediumship is not a panacea or a religious order - mediums can misinterpret what they're seeing or sensing - that's why I ask questions that are specific about "new information" that can be imparted.  Meaning "not knowable to anyone listening" until it's verified later forensically.  That's not hard to comprehend, is it?  It's not "predicting the future" or "hearing an opinion from the flipside" - which I agree would be pointless.  What I focus on are verifiable details that are unknown to the person asking the question or the medium - proving it could not be cryptomnesia. We may experience an illusion while here on the planet, but that doesn't mean we can't examine that illusion.)

5) "Atheism is not a religion". Atheism is a religion.  Atheists are deeply in the hypnotic trance state just like religious people: they believe this 3D illusion is real, they believe the illusion of humanity is real, they believe science is real and valid the same way religious people believe their religion is real and valid, and they have their God, science, the same way religious people have a God."

(The reason I said "atheism is not a religion" is that I agree with you - some people treat it as such, just substituting their old rules and regulations from previous religions onto a philosophy.  But my point was that it is not a religion per se - it's a philosophy.  (like Buddhism)  Not a religion, that believes or disbelieves as a matter of faith.  "I don't believe in god" is not an accurate sentence - it's "I don't believe in anyone's belief in god or gods."  Something different.  I'm not picking a fight with atheists - it's to call out people who confuse the two.  As this person has done in their reply.)

Me and George. Me looking pink again.

My reply:

"I appreciate your taking the time to reach out and respond.

Actually I'm not espousing any beliefs in this research.  I'm just reporting what people consistently say while under deep hypnosis.

It's not what I would have suspected they would say but it is what they say.  Consistently.  Meaning I've filmed 45 sessions with people I chose for skepticism.  But I've examined thousands of other cases as well as many near death events.

But I appreciate your opinion.  It's just not born out in the research.  If and when people say things under deep hypnosis (different therapists, different folks, around the planet) I'll be happy to report that as well.

Meanwhile, hope you have a good day. Again - not my opinion, belief or theory.  I'm just reporting what people say.

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And finally this emailed comment came today:

"I’m reaching out because of your interview on Coast to Coast. I loved it! Great show... you had me enthralled for the first hour.
What caught my attention was discussing Michael Newton. While I haven’t had a personal LBL session yet, what rang true for me was when you said “taking the red pill”. Lol. 

Because that was my reaction after reading “Journey of Souls”. I was captivated by that book (and his other one “Destiny of Souls”). They, for me, have gone a long way to bring clarity which wasn’t there before. (actually he has two more "Life Between Lives" and "Memories of the Afterlife.")

....So, for some reason when I heard you say those words, I had to connect with you. I’m not really sure why just that reaching out seems like “a good idea”. (The “good idea” you get when shivers run down your spine.)

Even writing this I shrug my shoulders going “what am I doing?”
I love your website and ordered a copy of “Hacking the Afterlife”. I’m looking forward to reading that too..."

(then he includes a vivid dream he had)

" night, I had my vision. (A dream that's so real you would swear you are there. This is because you are.) The dream (which I will refer to as my “vision”) happened on a sandy beach.
On this beach, the sand was smooth and oh, so soft. The waves were gentle, and the clouds were few. A perfect day.
I was there standing close to the edge where the water was washing over my feet when I realized that there was someone standing next to me. I couldn't see him, but he was there.
It was one of my Spirit Guides.... We enjoyed the sandy beach and the calm ocean together. The silence was so peaceful.
Then he turned and picked up a grain of sand and as he showed me the grain, he said, “This grain of sand is all you know, and this is all you will ever know!” He put it down back where he found it.
Wow.... The encounter left me crushed. I mean, I had this notion I learned everything. Boy, was I wrong. It jolted my ego."

He goes on to describe his interpretation of the dream.

My reply: (and this applies to anyone who's had a "vivid dream")
"Thanks for reaching out. Interesting dream.  I would have interpreted it differently... but then that's me. The best way for you to understand the dream is to reach out to your guide and ask.

Try to remember the dream as best you can in "real time."  Look over at your guide.  Don't get hung up on his name - that's a place holder.  Just look at this face.  Is it old or young? What color is the hair, the eyes, the skin?  Can you see what he's wearing?"  Just focus on him for a minute until you can actually see him.

It might be fuzzy or not clear - but you can get a clearer picture by asking questions. "how tall is he?  taller than me?"  If so, how can i see his face? or do I just hear him?  If you freeze the frame, try to look at him carefully.  

Then reach out with your hand and take his hand in yours. What does that feel like?  describe the emotions you feel. Anything? cold? warm? friend? teacher? etc. Then try to take both hands.  Look him in the eye.  Thank him for showing up.  

Ask "have we ever had a lifetime together? where was it? show it to me?  write down your impressions - answer could be "yes" or "no" - or "not on this planet."  If he says yes just ask "where, can you show me?"  If it seems familiar - like a city or era comes to mind examine that too... where are we? what was my name? what was your name? was I male or female?  

Don't judge any of the answers.  Just write them down.

Now back to holding his hand.  Ask him to show you something - like your soul group.  "Can you show me my soul group?"  if the answer is yes, count how many are in it.  don't judge the number.  Just count.  Look around - see anyone you know?

Then ask him "are you my primary guide? or is there another?"  Look around.  Is there anyone else watching this conversation?  If so - get them to come closer to identify them.  

Then ask him "Can you show me my council.?  You may not know your council, but he does.

Write down - are you inside or outside? What's the room or place look like? How many people? standing or sitting? are they in a row, or in a curve? what do they look like? go up to each member and do the same - take their hand, observe how they look, their age, their reason for being on your council.  Ask them "to show you" the "reason that they exist on your council.  What quality did you accomplish or learn from an incarnation to earn their place on your council?"  don't judge the answers but write them down.

Then see if they are wearing any clothing - describe it... any ornaments?  If so, ask what it represents.  Don't judge the answers...
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Finally ask "is there any message that I can pass along to myself or my friends and family or loved ones that will be of help to them?"  And see what they say.
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You'll be surprised.

You can have a friend ask these questions - but the key - the bridge - the gateway - is to remember that vivid dream.  You can see his face now as I write this sentence... so ask him some questions.

And tell him I said hello.


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