Find the Flaw and Life Reviews

So, this morning, I awoke with this sentence in my head, "Find the flaw."

An icon without flaws

I knew what it was in reference to, and it was about the "process of speaking to the flipside."

It refers to the idea that during the pandemic, people are shut away from their journey, their path, their joys... but not their sorrows.  Friends, loved ones, we will all be affected by the loss of someone at this rate. 

I know I have beenfriends, neighbors, have been lost to something that was preventable.

It's infuriating to think that with competency, this wave of disaster didn't have to occur.  So when one is considering what I'm about to say about the flipside, know that I'm as outraged, furious, fist waving as anyone when it comes to "snap out of it!" kinds of answers to what's going on. Mask up, grow up is my motto.

But I've also been speaking to people on the flipside for the past ten years. To be clear, I'm not doing the talking.  I mean, I am talking, but it's asking questions.

I have been filming people under hypnosis for the past ten years speaking to loved ones no longer on the planet about the process, about the architecture of how that occurs, "Architecture of the Afterlife" - I've been filming people talking about it (see "Flipside" or "Talking to Bill Paxton" on Gaia, or the 40 podcasts on "" or at

Yeah that's right. I just keep filming, and posting. Filming and transcribing and publishing. Speaking up and out whenever I can to whomever wants to hear.

Recently on Quora, someone posted a comment, "So what are we supposed to do during the pandemic? We are obviously no longer on our path?"

I said "change the paradigm. Do something for someone else. Go to an animal shelter and offer to walk a dog. Look up someone who is suffering and donate money." 

These small gestures, according to the research and reports - are the major gestures in our lifetime. 

We think it's about the "foundation" we created, or the charity work we do - but when it's specific, like literally holding a hand of an older person walking across the street, or stopping to help them up - those are the things people report in their past life review.

So I had an experience once I began this research.  

Again, I was a skeptic about it - didn't believe there was an afterlife, or any order in the universe at all - until I started the documentary. And then unfortunately everything I'd believed about the planet had to be reevaluated.

Including myself.

When I first heard about the "past life review" - that is someone who during a near death event experiences a "life review" - it gave me pause. People would describe either an intimate setting with their guides or council members where they went over  details of the things they did that were helpful or the things  they did that were hurtful.

People reporting experiencing these events first hand - if someone punched someone in the mouth, they suddenly were the victim feeling the punch, the blood, the broken tooth, the humiliation.

Think  that over for a moment - every bad moment we've had in life will be experienced once  we get to the flipside. So one can see why some people are reluctant to leave - for fear of the consequences of their actions.

In fact, during a session recently we heard that - from none other than Chuck Yeager, someone I didn't know, never met, someone Jennifer didn't know, never met - and he was saying "Because he carried the deaths of all those he'd killed in World War  II and the Vietnam  war, he was afraid of  "consequences" when he got to the other side.

But that's not what happened in his case - he reported that the German pilots he'd shot down (at one point 5 in one day) were there to "congratulate him" on a job well done. They showed him that he had been a pilot for Germany in World War I and that he'd been "downing other planes" for some time. (That's not something I could make up, nor could Jennifer. He said it. She heard it.)

So back to "finding the flaw."

I started to  think over my life, and those I may have harmed, hurt or made feel bad. In my mind's eye, I was asking for forgiveness from each of them, and then one fellow popped up into my mind. Someone that our class had bullied in grade school. I've talked to him about this - and he says he didn't feel bullied - but I recalled it in vivid detail. Each time someone made fun of his clothes, his jacket... just awful behavior in a grade school setting. And I had participated in it.

But I thought about having that life review - where I would be the child taunted and harassed - and thought, "Is there any way to rectify this?"  I sought him out - found him online, grown up, a successful  person in his world. I was going to be in his neighborhood, so I asked him to join me for coffee.  

And as we sat there having these coffees, I thought about not bringing it up. The usual "Hey, how's it going, just curious about  your life" kind of  chat. But I finally forced myself to say "Do you remember our harassing you in grade school?"

He looked at me with a face that seemed as if he had no recollection of it. And as I looked at his face, I saw how beautiful a person he is. Always was. 

I mean, for a moment, I was looking at his blue eyes and could hear a voice say "What possibly could have possessed you to harass this beautiful human being?"   I just said "Look man, even if you don't remember it, I'm sorry that I participated or had anything to do with making you feel bad. Ever. I just wanted you to know that."

He thanked me, still not quite sure what the heck I was doing in front of him.

I  dug deep to find the flaw.

Not everyone has the ability to track down an old acquaintance for grade school and see them. But you can look them up. Search for them online. Donate something to their cause or work or what they loved. Say hello. Say goodbye. Say something that changes the paradigm.

When I went to school in Rome (The Rome Center, part of Loyola Chicago) I took  a sculpture course with Peter Rockwell, the son of Norman, and a famous gargoyle maker for churches in Europe.  He took us to Carrera, taught us how to sculpt -and told the story of how the 25 year old Michelangelo competed for a giant block of marble in Florence.  He won the competition and won  the marble - but when he began to work on it, he found a flaw.

A flaw usually dooms a  piece of marble. Because you could be working on a piece and the rest falls away. But instead, Michelangelo followed the flaw. He dug into the marble, followed the flaw until  it ended, and that's where he began the sculpture. The flaw ended in the David's knee.  If one looks carefully, they can see that one knee cap is smaller than the other. Michelangelo dug to find flaw, and then built out from there.

Where Michelangelo began

Everyone has flaws. Every piece of sculpture does as well. Every song, every painting. Every play, everything we've ever created. The better artists know how to hide the flaws.  But as people we need to look inward to find the flaws, then dig deep to fix them, or otherwise influence them.

Peter Rockwell, National Gallery

When stuck in a room due to the pandemic, look for the flaws.  

They may not be apparent. They may be as simple as "You know, I never told that person I loved them, I'm going to take out their photograph now and apologize to them." Or text them. Or call them. "Hey, I was thinking of you, how are you?"

So many people have touched our lives -I think of some of the "past life reviews" that people report that are in front of a giant auditorium.   Thousands watching, and each moment that is recalled - everyone in the audience experiences that as well.

I had a dream about this - I became conscious that I was in a giant auditorium, and someone was on center stage, and was getting their  life review.  I was up in row 120 or so - pretty far away. But  each time this fellow was reminded of something he'd done to help someone, the visual went out through the audience like a wave. We all experienced it, we all saw the value that was being expressed.

I remembered this dream, because as I was "coming to consciousness" I turned to someone sitting nearby and said "Oh man, I gotta go, I wish I could stick around." And this  person (whom I did not recognize) said "That's okay, this will be going on for days."

The person onstage was a musician, famous for being an iconoclast, someone I had reviewed when I did music reviews for Variety, someone I did not know, but who has shown up often in the research with Jennifer Shaffer ("Backstage Pass to the Flipside"

I'm not mentioning his name, because it's not about his fame or celebrity (that doesn't exist on the flipside) but  it is about the experience of being in the audience and experiencing someone's life review. An amazing experience. Virtual in 4D - as one sees it and feels it simultaneously as it's being reviewed.

If you haven't thought about it - now's as good a time as any to think about it. And if there are flaws to fix - fix them.  It will be entertaining when we all get to view that event.

My two cents.

John Lennon says he's helping Paul with his music, Paul confirms it

It's a provocative headline, I know.

Flipside detectives. Just reporting ma'am.

I'm not trying to sell anyone anything. I'm reporting, so it deserves this kind of headline.

Let me say it again: John Lennon says he's helping Paul with his music, Paul confirms it.

Today on the CBS Morning show, Paul was quoted speaking of John.

(Asked about John's passing and if he'd still be writing on "CBS This Morning") 

"Yeah. He was showing no signs of slowing up. You know, he was still making great music. The question is, would we have ever got back together again?" What's the answer? "I don't know!" McCartney said. "We don't know. We were friends. That was one of the great things about it. You know, I don't know how I would've dealt with it. 'Cause I don't think I've dealt with it very well. You know, in a way, you know … I wouldn't be surprised if a psychiatrist would sort of find out that I was slightly in denial. Because it's too much." 

McCartney told us he still has dreams about John Lennon, and thinks about him when he writes."  

There's a direct quote in last week's "Hacking the afterlife" podcast where we asked John (who stopped by with a friend) "what are you up to?" and he said "I'm working with Paul on his songs."' 

We (Jennifer Shaffer and I) asked him about that process as well:

Here's the podcast of that episode: 

Here's the video of the podcast from 

This past week, we had a "surprise guest" in our podcast.  That is, as I was going to sleep, I heard my friend Luana Anders (who passed in 1996) tell me that we had a "surprise guest" for our upcoming podcast.

Why Luana put it that way, I don't know. We have interviewed both Elvis and John in the books "Backstage Pass to the Flipside" and I reference them in this interview.


I forgot to add in the post that Elvis came through to talk a bit about his relationship with Colonel Tom Parker. 

Tom Hanks was talking about what a con man and huckster he was in life on "The Late Show" - but then said when he invited Priscilla to dinner at their home, she talked about how much the family loved Tom, how much Elvis loved him. 

And in the interview, Elvis explains why - they "found each other in this lifetime" and "checked off all the boxes of lessons they wanted to learn." People on the flipside not only reporting new information, but confirming what their loved ones on this side say about them. 

John helps Paul, Paul refers to John helping him - Elvis loved Parker, Tom reports that's what Priscilla said. Literally what Jennifer reported Elvis said about being "a genius and scoundrel."

But something in the interview jumped out at me today, because, well the quote came from Paul McCartney.

In the interview with Elvis, we asked him how he showed up in our class that day or why. And Jennifer said "He's telling me that John Lennon brought him forward."  That is "normal" in terms of the amount of sessions I've filmed and done with Jennifer - once a week for the past six years - one person we've interviewed in the past will "bring someone else" forward.  ("Backstage Pass to the Flipside" books 1, 2 and 3).

We've interviewed friends (Bill Paxton, Harry Dean Stanton) strangers, politicians - anyone who wanders in, because I know they haven't wandered in, they've asked, raised their hand to speak to us.

I know that's the case because when Tom Petty showed up a few days after his passing, I asked "Why is Tom here?" And he said "You guys have no idea how long the line is to talk to you.  Your friend Luana is the person who holds the clipboard and allows people in.  It's like she's the bouncer at the VIP entrance of the club, no one gets in without her saying it's okay."

Hence the title of the book.

I didn't know Tom. Jennifer didn't know Tom. Tom has specific messages he wanted us to pass along to his family and we did so. For the record, the family member I reached out to said "I really wish I could speak to my father, but I don't think you guys are talking to him."  

I apologized for the intrusion. 

But that hasn't stopped others from coming in to speak to us, to ask us to pass along messages to people. Junior Seau wanted to speak to his widow, Gina, so I set up a session with Jennifer without telling her why. She didn't know Gina, didn't know who Junior was really, and they had an hour long conversation on film.  Junior was adamant about telling us that the very much alive Joe Namath has "cured his CTE" using hyperbaric oxygen therapy. 

Jennifer and Gina Seau post interview

So adamant he showed up three times to make the case, with Paul Allen (Microsoft founder who started his brain institute to explore these brain issues), Dave Duerson of the Chicago Bears who was the first victim of CTE. I put a film on that is 90 minutes of these conversations that anyone can view for free.

But back to Paul and John.

Let's not forget who wrote the song "Yesterday" and "Let It Be."

In the interview he talks about "waking up with the song in his head." More on point is that his mother came to him in a moment of stress - when he reportedly was worried about his finances - and told him to "Let it be."

It's literally a conversation with his departed mother telling him to "just let things be" and that everything is going to be okay.  

But beyond that, last Thursday John said he is "helping Paul with his music" - and describes that process, and today, Sunday the 20th of December in the year of our plague, Paul confirms


It's not me saying these things. It's not my opinion, theory or belief that people can speak to the flipside. I've been filming people doing so for ten years - over 100 cases to date, 50 with the help of hypnotherapist, 50 without any hypnotherapists. And that's aside from the dozens, perhaps 100s of people that Jennifer and I (and other mediums as well) have directly accessed from the other side.

Anyone can do it.

Anyone can speak to their loved ones.

Anyone can ask their loved ones to help. They can't intercede - they can't change the path we've chosen for ourselves - but they can (and do) keep up the conversation.

Even if it's the most famous writing duo on the planet.  One is assisting the other. 

( Jennifer works with law enforcement agencies nationwide on missing person cases. She knows what she's doing. Or at least I film her doing what she's doing.

I can't figure out any other way to trumpet this information.  I've been saying the same things since I wrote "Flipside" and made the documentary (on Amazon Prime) about this topic.  None of the details have changed - just grown more detailed.

Check it out. Look at the books, look at the research, try a self experiment, see if one comes up with a different outcome.  

Lately, I've had one of my old pals on the flipside "kicking my ass" because I haven't been more vocal about this research.  It's worth noting when something rings true, rings a bell, or otherwise shatters our illusion of how things work we need to let it ring.

Consider this post a very loud bell.

My two cents

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