Last shot of the day on a film set, also the last name of the author of this blog. Martin - Latin singular, those soldiers who work for Mars, God of War. A smith. In this lifetime of words, music and film. AKA "The Afterlife Expert" (Coast to Coast AM) If you want to reach me, I can be found on FB, LinkedIn, or Gmail under MartiniProds (my youtube channel)
Next Sunday, March 26th, at 1–2:30 LA Time, (4–5:30 EST time) I’m appearing live at the Conference the Art of Dying and Living. After Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Robert Thurman, yours truly will be discussing TALKING TO DIVINE COUNCILS IN THE AFTERLIFE. Will share data, research from the latest book, talk about how anyone, everyone can access their guides, teachers, council members on the flipside who have been watching over all of our lifetimes. Research includes a Harvard neuroscientist, another renowned neuroscientist, an Episcopal Minister, psychiatrist and others — who had no clue they could do so, but did. Over zoom. Should be fun! https://thusmenla.org/p/art-of-living-and-dying?affcode=790278_cey7_hrr
The Art of Dying and Living: An Exploration of Life, Death & the Afterlife Anthony Bossis, Grandmother Maria Alice Campos, Dr. Nida Chenagtsang, Deepak Chopra, Terri Daniel, Henry Fersko-Weiss, Matthew Fox, Joan Halifax, Andrew Holecek, Richard Martini, Frank Ostaseski, Paulo Roberto Silva e Souza, Therese Schroeder-Sheker, Jai Dev Singh, Robert Thurman, Marianne Williamson, and Alberto Villoldo March 23–26, 2023
It is our pleasure to invite you to join us in Tibet House US’ 2023 online conference and practice retreat, The Art of Dying and Living. This conference is a new incarnation of a powerfully transformative series of events we launched with the New York Open Center 20+ years ago, which introduced thousands to the profound exploration of the realities of death and dying as the doorway to living ever more vibrantly in the precious moments of life. Last year over a thousand people joined us for this interactive online conference, and we anticipate even greater turnout this year.
In these turbulent times, when we are all confronted by social violence, an epidemic of suicides, overdoses, war, famine, immigrants falling by the wayside fleeing unlivable countries, and the ever increasing series of natural disasters, it is highly fortunate to draw on worldwide wisdom cultures to learn more about death and dying with a view to enhancing our living and thriving and reaching out to others facing loss of life, loss of loved ones, and the sheer scale of planetary dangers.
Over these four days online together, you will hear from the following leading speakers: Anthony Bossis, Grandmother Maria Alice Campos, Deepak Chopra, Terri Daniel, Henry Fersko-Weiss, Matthew Fox, Joan Halifax, Andrew Holecek, Richard Martini, BJ Miller, Frank Ostaseski, Paulo Roberto Silva e Souza, Therese Schroeder-Sheker, Robert Thurman, and Alberto Villoldo. These renowned presenters will share visions and teachings and lead practices drawn from spiritual wisdom, scientific insight, and time-tested experiential methods of dealing with death and dying that immeasurably enrich the lives of those facing death, as well as those facing bereavement.
We will explore ancient and modern understandings of the art of dying and living through the lenses of different spiritual traditions, including Tibetan and Zen Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, and Shamanic. Study the nature of death as part of life. Teachings and practices will be woven throughout the conference to help us contemplate our own life and death more fully. Experts from the field of care giving and bereavement will bring support to those who are caring for those at the end of life or grieving for a loved one.
We will explore the relevance of psychedelics to our understanding of death and dying as well as rituals at the time of death and immediately after death, including sky burial, green burial, and cremation. We will learn about different modalities now increasingly being employed to improve the experience of dying, from meditation and bardo yogas to sound healing and the sacred use of psychedelics, and we will even discuss highly controversial topics such as euthanasia and the recent Tibetan tradition of body-immolation.
Richard Martini
Richard Martini is a best selling author and an award winning writer/director. His 8 books about the afterlife have all been #1 in their genre on Kindle. (“Flipside” “It’s a Wonderful Afterlife” Part One and Two, “Hacking the Afterlife” “Architecture of the Afterlife” “Backstage Pass to the Flipside” 1, 2 and 3. He’s written and/or directed eight theatrical features (“Limit Up,” “Cannes Man” “You Can’t Hurry Love”) curated historical content for “Salt” (Angelina Jolie) “Amelia” (Hilary Swank) was “Associate to Phillip Noyce” on “Salt.” His documentaries include “Journey into Tibet with Robert Thurman”, “Talking to Bill Paxton” (Gaia) and “Flipside” Amazon Prime. “Sister Cities — Chicago/Casablanca” was made for the U.S. State Dept. His latest book is TUNING INTO THE AFTERLIFE: his most recent documentary is HACKING THE AFTERLIFE
His documentary about the afterlife under hypnosis (“Flipside”) was also a best seller (#1 in its kindle genre); his 8 books on the topic have all hit #1 in their genres. He’s had 10 appearances on “Coast to Coast with George Noory” and seven on the “Beyond Belief with George Noory” on Gaia. This first appearance was the 2nd highest rated show on the network. His three books with medium Jennifer Shaffer (“Backstage Pass to the Flipside”) have all been to #1 in their genre after his Coast to Coast appearances.
Here’s a link to the recent talk at the International Association for Near Death Studies… talking about “contacting the afterlife” via guided meditation. It’s 90 minutes with 30 minutes of q and a.
The subject of my talk will be “How to revisit the NDE using guided meditation ” based on my recent book “Divine Councils in the Afterlife. ” (Divinecouncils.com)
In the research I demonstrate how a person can revisit an event that occurred, including the NDE, using a simple exercise of guided meditation.
How people (including Scientists, Clergy) report being able to meet guides, teachers, fellow classmates on the flipside, learn new information from their experience, and ask and answer questions about their experience.
The talk will include examples of people who used hypnotherapy to access their NDE, and then examples of how people can revisit an event, or get help with accessing the event from their guides or loved ones.
Its a method of inquiry that gets the same results without hypnosis.
ABOUT RICHARD:
Richard is a filmmaker/author of ten books about the Afterlife. (Best selling in their genre at kindle.) Frequent guest on “Coast to Coast with George Noory and “Beyond Belief” on Gaia, Richard has three documentaries on the afterlife, Flipsidemyfilm.com or HackingTheAfterlifeFilm.com, “Talking to Bill Paxton” on Gaia, in addition to his latest book Divinecouncils.com. He’s spoken at 9 different IANDS locations and was a featured speaker at the IANDS convention (Orlando).
He’s been invited to return to the upcoming “Art of Dying and Living Conference” in March with Robert Thurman, Deepak Chopra and Marianne Williamson.
Next Sunday, March 26th, at 1–2:30 LA Time, (4–5:30 EST time) I’m appearing live at the Conference the Art of Dying and Living. After Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Robert Thurman, yours truly will be discussing TALKING TO DIVINE COUNCILS IN THE AFTERLIFE. Will share data, research from the latest book, talk about how anyone, everyone can access their guides, teachers, council members on the flipside who have been watching over all of our lifetimes. Research includes a Harvard neuroscientist, another renowned neuroscientist, an Episcopal Minister, psychiatrist and others — who had no clue they could do so, but did. Over zoom. Should be fun! https://thusmenla.org/courses/art-of-living-and-dying/lectures/45457428
The Art of Dying and Living: An Exploration of Life, Death & the Afterlife Anthony Bossis, Grandmother Maria Alice Campos, Dr. Nida Chenagtsang, Deepak Chopra, Terri Daniel, Henry Fersko-Weiss, Matthew Fox, Joan Halifax, Andrew Holecek, Richard Martini, Frank Ostaseski, Paulo Roberto Silva e Souza, Therese Schroeder-Sheker, Jai Dev Singh, Robert Thurman, Marianne Williamson, and Alberto Villoldo March 23–26, 2023
It is our pleasure to invite you to join us in Tibet House US’ 2023 online conference and practice retreat, The Art of Dying and Living. This conference is a new incarnation of a powerfully transformative series of events we launched with the New York Open Center 20+ years ago, which introduced thousands to the profound exploration of the realities of death and dying as the doorway to living ever more vibrantly in the precious moments of life. Last year over a thousand people joined us for this interactive online conference, and we anticipate even greater turnout this year.
In these turbulent times, when we are all confronted by social violence, an epidemic of suicides, overdoses, war, famine, immigrants falling by the wayside fleeing unlivable countries, and the ever increasing series of natural disasters, it is highly fortunate to draw on worldwide wisdom cultures to learn more about death and dying with a view to enhancing our living and thriving and reaching out to others facing loss of life, loss of loved ones, and the sheer scale of planetary dangers.
Over these four days online together, you will hear from the following leading speakers: Anthony Bossis, Grandmother Maria Alice Campos, Deepak Chopra, Terri Daniel, Henry Fersko-Weiss, Matthew Fox, Joan Halifax, Andrew Holecek, Richard Martini, BJ Miller, Frank Ostaseski, Paulo Roberto Silva e Souza, Therese Schroeder-Sheker, Robert Thurman, and Alberto Villoldo. These renowned presenters will share visions and teachings and lead practices drawn from spiritual wisdom, scientific insight, and time-tested experiential methods of dealing with death and dying that immeasurably enrich the lives of those facing death, as well as those facing bereavement.
We will explore ancient and modern understandings of the art of dying and living through the lenses of different spiritual traditions, including Tibetan and Zen Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, and Shamanic. Study the nature of death as part of life. Teachings and practices will be woven throughout the conference to help us contemplate our own life and death more fully. Experts from the field of care giving and bereavement will bring support to those who are caring for those at the end of life or grieving for a loved one.
We will explore the relevance of psychedelics to our understanding of death and dying as well as rituals at the time of death and immediately after death, including sky burial, green burial, and cremation. We will learn about different modalities now increasingly being employed to improve the experience of dying, from meditation and bardo yogas to sound healing and the sacred use of psychedelics, and we will even discuss highly controversial topics such as euthanasia and the recent Tibetan tradition of body-immolation.
Richard Martini
Richard Martini is a best selling author and an award winning writer/director. His 8 books about the afterlife have all been #1 in their genre on Kindle. (“Flipside” “It’s a Wonderful Afterlife” Part One and Two, “Hacking the Afterlife” “Architecture of the Afterlife” “Backstage Pass to the Flipside” 1, 2 and 3. He’s written and/or directed eight theatrical features (“Limit Up,” “Cannes Man” “You Can’t Hurry Love”) curated historical content for “Salt” (Angelina Jolie) “Amelia” (Hilary Swank) was “Associate to Phillip Noyce” on “Salt.” His documentaries include “Journey into Tibet with Robert Thurman”, “Talking to Bill Paxton” (Gaia) and “Flipside” Amazon Prime. “Sister Cities — Chicago/Casablanca” was made for the U.S. State Dept. His latest book is TUNING INTO THE AFTERLIFE: his most recent documentary is HACKING THE AFTERLIFE
His documentary about the afterlife under hypnosis (“Flipside”) was also a best seller (#1 in its kindle genre); his 8 books on the topic have all hit #1 in their genres. He’s had 10 appearances on “Coast to Coast with George Noory” and seven on the “Beyond Belief with George Noory” on Gaia. This first appearance was the 2nd highest rated show on the network. His three books with medium Jennifer Shaffer (“Backstage Pass to the Flipside”) have all been to #1 in their genre after his Coast to Coast appearances.
This was one of the more unusual podcasts in memory - mainly because it was on my birthday, and I had the profound experience of being with my friend Luana Anders on my birthday. Here, Luana left the planet in 1996, and being able to ask her questions and get answers, as well as ask her to give her Oscar's speech - is mind bending.
Jennifer and I have been doing this for 8 years. Luana has appeared to members of my family (when they'd never met her, but could identify her) as well as other friends. She was in over 300 TV shows and films, and was mentioned by Jack Nicholson in his speech for "As Good As It Gets."
Luana moderates our podcast from the flipside.
But before I get to her speech, Princess Diana showed up to talk about the event when she is mentioned in Prince Harry's book SPARE. How she not only orchestrated that event, but orchestrated Jennifer being in a restaurant with some friends, was in the midst of talking about Harry's report about her showing up via a medium (in his book "Spare") and then while talking about Diana, Harry and Meghan showed up in the restaurant.
She had a profound message for both her boys, to paraphrase, it's to "focus on love." To have unconditional love for each other, as well as their father - and moreover to be aware that everyone is going through troubles and difficulties, but if one can love themselves, then they can love others unconditionally - it's as profound a concept and statement about love as I've ever recorded.
Then Jennifer correctly predicts that "Everything Everywhere" would win many awards (that was widely predicted, but Jennifer hadn't seen it) just as last week's podcast when I asked Carl Laemmle (who purchased the rights to the original "All Quiet on the Western Front" when head of the company he founded Universal pictures) how many awards would they win? Or if the screenwriter who saw a vision she would win an Oscar for the film was correct - Carl said she was, and indeed, she did.
He said it would win three, it actually won four. It's not that Jennifer was right or wrong, as the question was asked to Carl. The future doesn't exist, there are likely outcomes, just pointing out that even Carl on the flipside, who said it would win three, was off by one. It happens.
Again - we're demonstrating how simple it is to speak to loved ones on the flipside.
Here's Jack Nicholson mentioning Luana in his Oscar speech: https://youtu.be/jS7Z--qJ-Dw
So in light of asking my pal Luana what she might have said had she won an Oscar, she said:
"I would like to say to all of those viewers out there... how much I love what I do.
I loved what I did there, I love what I do here... I love the intersections, the intercrossings.. all the directors, the actors, the people that feed them... how it takes everything, every unique talent and every situation -- that connects us all.
If everybody knew that this was a play; that you are here in front of me and you are one of the actors in my play and I'm one of the actors in your play, wouldn't we get along better if we knew we had to be clothed and fed and taking care of each other?
And maybe "The Union" was God? Or whatever (term) to keep things going? It could be that simple.
We make it so difficult to care for one another. Why can't we just care for everyone?
I just want everyone to know that we are all in this together and I'm grateful for everyone who is listening, from afar to here. To those that don't know us yet, to those that will never know us - when you bring up your abilities to wake up, to be connected, to know you are connected... Then anything else can be a little bit easier.
Just be who you are and know you have an important part in everybody's play."
Luana was a lifelong Buddhist, a member of SGI here in Los Angeles, along with her pals Herbie Hancock, Tina Turner, the late Wayne Shorter - and I know Jennifer well enough to know that she would not have given her Oscar speech in this fashion, but I know for a fact that it is in line with everything that Luana believed in when she was on the planet, and chanted for on a daily basis.
Our loved ones are with us. Try to not forget that. But also try to remember, we are all actors in each other's plays - try to love without conditions.
Sunday March 26th from 1-2:30 pm PST (4-5:30 EST) will be talking about the Flipside visa vis the Buddhist perspective, life after life, how consciousness exists outside the brain, the latest research, experiments done that demonstrate anyone can access their guides, teachers, council members on the flipside. Without fuss, muss or any of the suss associated with the concept. Tune in for some mind bending data, research and footage:
The Art of Dying and Living: An Exploration of Life, Death & the Afterlife
Anthony Bossis,Grandmother Maria Alice Campos, Dr. Nida Chenagtsang, Deepak Chopra, Terri Daniel, Henry Fersko-Weiss, Matthew Fox, Joan Halifax, Andrew Holecek, Richard Martini, Frank Ostaseski, Paulo Roberto Silva e Souza, Therese Schroeder-Sheker, Jai Dev Singh, Robert Thurman, Marianne Williamson, and Alberto Villoldo
March 23-26, 2023
Richard Martini
Richard Martini is a best selling author and an award winning writer/director. His 8 books about the afterlife have all been #1 in their genre on Kindle. (“Flipside” “It’s a Wonderful Afterlife” Part One and Two, “Hacking the Afterlife” “Architecture of the Afterlife” “Backstage Pass to the Flipside” 1, 2 and 3. He's written and/or directed eight theatrical features ("Limit Up," "Cannes Man" "You Can't Hurry Love") curated historical content for “Salt” (Angelina Jolie) "Amelia" (Hilary Swank) was “Associate to Phillip Noyce” on “Salt.” His documentaries include “Journey into Tibet with Robert Thurman”, “Talking to Bill Paxton” (Gaia) and “Flipside” Amazon Prime. “Sister Cities – Chicago/Casablanca” was made for the U.S. State Dept. His latest book is TUNING INTO THE AFTERLIFE: his most recent documentary is HACKING THE AFTERLIFE
His documentary about the afterlife under hypnosis ("Flipside") was also a best seller (#1 in its kindle genre); his 8 books on the topic have all hit #1 in their genres. He’s had 10 appearances on “Coast to Coast with George Noory” and seven on the “Beyond Belief with George Noory” on Gaia. This first appearance was the 2nd highest rated show on the network. His three books with medium Jennifer Shaffer (“Backstage Pass to the Flipside”) have all been to #1 in their genre after his Coast to Coast appearances.
Murders in South Carolina and other Flipside observations.
Questions about murderers, psychopaths etc comes up often in the research.
It’s a question often asked; “What about so and so?” Because what people report is that when we get offstage, we have a life review… and people experience the negative things they caused others to experience, but they experience them first hand. So it’s a form of hell if one wants to use that terminology — it doesn’t exist per se in the research, data or footage, but in the desire to be accurate about what people report, they report that those folks who have created mayhem, get to experience the mayhem first hand.
Also when discussing psychopaths — we only have the language of genetics or sociology to help. “His DNA is predisposed to lack of empathy.” or “He or she was abused as a child, and abusers act out of abuse, in a never ending pattern.” Both appear to apply to psychopaths in general. But there is this other element; their spiritual path. Things that occurred in previous lifetimes, agreements or discussions made prior to coming to the stage. We can’t judge someone completely unless we know all the facts about why and how their teachers, guides, classmates and council members thought this might be a worthy effort onstage (for discussions about Divine Councils, see “Divine Councils in the Afterlife” for some examples of planned journeys, or “Architecture of the Afterlife” for additional accounts).
But something else is in the mix, and a headline is prompting me to comment about it. I don’t really have another place to comment about it, I may write about it for an article at Medium or my blog (MartiniShot) but the headline is this:
“Judge who sentenced Alex Murdaugh to life tells disgraced lawyer his murdered wife and son ‘will visit you at night’”
From an observational perspective, that may or may not be the case — the visiting I mean, because as noted, we have filters on the brain that prevent us generally from being aware of people visiting us. However, some people wracked with guilt, may experience this. And is what the judge is referring to.
But it brings to mind the defense attorney from a midwestern state who reached out to me, and is a chapter in the book “It’s a Wonderful Afterlife” (2) where she reached out to me to talk about an unusual aspect of her work. She is a defense attorney in 2nd degree murder trials.
It’s Chapter Twelve “I Can Help You.” (in the book IT’S A WONDERFUL AFTERLIFE; VOLUME TWO)
Basically she said in her 100 cases defending second degree murderers (drunk drivers, accidental shooting) ALL of them were “visited by their victims.” (Not some of them, or a percentage of them.) When she said that, I wondered about what they learned from those visits.
She said, “They all reported some form of “I’m okay” and “You don’t have to blame yourself” (again, these were second degree murders, accidents from willful disregard) or “I forgive you.”
It’s a startling statistic, it’s a disconcerting piece of data. I searched the records, and found a case in Seattle where a guy had murdered an entire family, and during his sentencing phrase (he admitted it, he was in a drug haze) he said “I was visited by the family that I killed, and they told me that they are okay. I just wanted the victim’s family to hear that. No matter what happens to me, I want them to know they still exist.”
One of the jurors was moved by that testimony — and commuted his sentence to life in prison.
In the case of this recent South Carolina murder — he claims he didn’t do the crime. However, the visitation will be the same. His family can come to him, can explain what happened.
And he will have all that time in prison to reflect upon, perhaps help someone else while he’s there. This guy was a lawyer who prosecuted many people — he’s going to have a hard time of it wherever he ends up, but in essence, he has the “rest of his life” to help prisoners with their appeals, to set up a law practice in prison (as Bob Odenkirk does in “Better Call Saul”) where he can earn some “points on the flipside” by helping those who are still on the planet.
I know the sentence was said as vengeance, but that won’t bring back his wife and son — and further, shows that we cannot learn anything from our journey on the planet if we cannot discuss the data, research and footage that shows both his wife and son are “alive on the flipside.” Have gone home, early, as planned, we cannot know unless we ask them.
But in terms of justice, I’m offering that the more people become aware that this isn’t our only lifetime, that we bring conscious energy to a life, and the rest is back home — the more we can understand why and how we on the planet, and why things happen (including bad ones.)
So indeed, his family is likely going to visit him in his dreams, but it may not be for the reasons the judge has offered. There’s a larger, more elaborate picture to examine, and it includes why we choose to be on the planet.
Here’s the chapter: (reprinted from It’s a Wonderful Afterlife Volume Two)
Chapter Twelve — “I Can Help You”
Interview with An Attorney
I’ve changed the name of the attorney and other details to protect the families and client/attorney privilege.
The Attorney
RICHARD: Where are you from?
ATTORNEY: I grew up in the West, went to law school in California, practiced there two years; there were few female lawyers (where I lived), and I ended up here in (my home state).
Did you have any spiritual experiences in your life?
I was taking ballet as a child, there were a lot of Russians there after the war, and we had a lot of Russians (in my home town). I was about 8 years old, I remember the teacher saying “In Russia, they pick dancers by the shape of their feet.” I can remember consciously thinking “If I’m not a dancer in this life, then I’ll be a dancer in my next life.” I had never been exposed to the idea of incarnation, as I was raised Roman Catholic. Also when my mother passed, I had a visitation from her.
I’ve practiced law for 30 years. And all of my clients, every single one of them has had a visitation — even the most staunch Baptist who would never believe “any of that,” an off the wall conservative, or religious; it doesn’t matter. All have had a visitation and 90% try to discount it, “Oh, it’s just my imagination.”
What do you tell them?
I tell my clients they need to just “listen.” Most of those I’ve worked with who’ve killed people have done it at least inadvertently; I’ve worked with many who killed people with their automobiles. It is still a criminal act, but usually caused by alcohol or some other factor. Every single one has been visited (in some fashion) by the person they killed, either in a dream or a hypnogogic state.
What are the most memorable ones?
There were four most strongly remembered. Two that still pull on my heart strings; one was a young adult who had just gotten a new pickup. He was having a speed contest with another kid on this winding country road and decided to pass him, crossing over the double yellow line.
Suddenly there were kids on their bikes, they split, and one went his way. This boy braked as hard as he could, but he killed one of the children. And it was horrible. I was his lawyer and he was charged with many things, but he would tell me that this child would come to him in his dreams. Mind you, during the accident he only saw the child for an instant. And in his visions, the child would come to him and say “I’m ok. You don’t need to worry. I’m safe and happy where I am and I can help you. But you have to let me help you.” And my client would wake himself up.
I’m Ok Where I Am
I worked with this young man for a long time, and I would tell him “You need to listen to your subconscious and deal with this grief and move on from this incident.” But he was having none of it. He’d say “It scares me, it’s a nightmare.” For a while he didn’t sleep, sometimes for days at a time. Anyway, he really went off the rails after that. He wasn’t a great student to begin with, but he just did all the things you’re afraid kids will do; by the time I saw him some years later, he had gotten into drugs.
Can you repeat what the child said to him?
The child said “I’m ok where I am. I’m happy. I’m safe here. I’m in no pain.” Basically telling him “You don’t need to feel guilty.” The main message was “I can help you, but you have to let me help you.” But this boy was having none of it; it was too frightening to him. His family was strict Baptist, so there was no solace for him in his Church.
How about you? Are you religious?
I consider myself a Buddhist.
Are there other cases you can mention?
This other case was a young man who joined the military, came home on leave, one thing lead to another; he went out with his friends drinking beer. He was not drunk, but he flipped a jeep and it landed on his friend.
His friend was still alive, and the friend said “I can’t breathe, get me out.” So this man would use all his effort to lift up the Jeep, but eventually he’d have to put it back down. He picked it up until his arms didn’t work anymore, and finally went to get help and the friend died.
In this case, the driver lost all of the hair on the leg that the other boy had been holding onto when he lifted up the Jeep. Later, he said he could still feel his friend’s hands burned into his skin.
And then friend then started appearing to him. My client would be in a recliner and see him, and his friend would say essentially the same thing; “I’m fine where I am, this is the way it was supposed to happen, I can help you.” Saying “I can help you move past this but you have to let me help you.” But again, there was no way he could do that.
When they talk about seeing victims have they described them visually?
Some would see them in their dreams. The boy who drove into the child on the bike said he only saw the child for a split second before his car hit him, so he had no reference for that child other than that moment, so it surprised him how the child would appear to him. It’s the same story with the friend who lost control of the Jeep; he would see his friend standing next to his chair. He would appear as a full ghost to him. In full physical form.
Was it the same message for each person or different messages?
No, just the same message; “I can help you.”
In another case, a guy and his buddy got drunk, went hunting, rolled their truck. So this man killed his close relative. That guy was charged with homicide — and his relative appeared to him.
The message he got from the relative was that he wanted him to go back to the wreck and look for something. The message was “You have to go back there and find it.” So this man kept going back to the scene of the accident, like a compulsion, looking for something — but he didn’t know what. He kept going back and never found anything.
Perhaps it was a metaphor. Perhaps to find peace or what really happened?
Or to face it. He started finding things out there; found a smashed cowboy hat, he kept looking for things that might have fallen out of his truck, I don’t know if he ever found whatever it was he was supposed to find.
The fourth most powerful experience I recall was that of an attorney I know. If there was a prize for “worst father of the year,” he would have won it; his answer to dealing with his child’s anger was to lock them in the cellar.
When I met his son, I thought “This child was too fragile for this Earth.” Once I went fishing with them and he didn’t say one word the entire day. On the boy’s 16th birthday, he came into the office and was just talking up a storm. I was like “Who is this boy? What happened?” When I got in the truck with my husband, I said to him “Something really has made him happy.”
Well, it was the night the child decided to commit suicide. About a week later, this attorney said to me “Every time I fall asleep, my boy comes and stands by my chair. How could that be?” He said the son told him “I’m okay where I am, it wasn’t your fault; I feel free.”
I told this attorney what I’ve said to all of my clients who’ve experienced something like this; “Just listen.” This happened for some months. My impression is that eventually we get beyond their concern for us, or we get used to it, or I don’t know; we just don’t see it anymore.
It’s in the research and there’s a case I heard about where a woman had the same kind of experience, losing a son to suicide, and then having him come to her in a dream. It’s unusual in this case, as he continues to come back — must be a strong connection there.
I’m considered the absent minded professional. I’m very logical, very rational, I try to rule out coincidental causes. Before my sister “Betty” died she said, “I will be in touch with you.” One day I was freaking out about something, and I looked at the floor, it was empty, but then when I lifted up my head there was money on the floor. I don’t know where it came from, but it made me think of my sister. I thought “Oh she must really be worrying about me.”
I was talking to a friend and she said “Do you know someone named Betty? She really wants to talk to you.” She said “Your sister’s really starting to yell at me.” I had never had an experience like this; she was identifying stuff only Betty and I would know, a Christmas tree we had when we were little, our tire swing at the old home, how we’d climb up onto this building and jump off with the tire swing – so my friend said “She came through to apologize to you.”
What did she say?
She said “I’m really sorry about the way I treated you when we were little girls, I yelled at you all the time, and I was mean to you.” Betty was unhappy as a little girl, yelled all the time, threw stuff, always cried in the family picture, but I only remember her throwing something at someone else, not at me.
Great story. So how many cases did you have where people had a memory of their victims coming to them?
I’ve probably had 5 of these death cases a year over 34 years — up to ten a year. It’s over 100. In every case — even with my secretary, and my bookkeeper — every single one I’ve represented has been visited by the victim or by the person close to them who died in some way.”
Wow, that’s amazing, thank you.
“As long as you are not aware of the continual law of Die and Be Again, you are merely a vague guest on a dark Earth.” — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
